My daughter is sick and was up late last night. In turn today Monday is going to be a challenge for me. In addition I am sure I am going to be battling the cold myself. Perfect absolutely perfect!
As a coach I like to give as much quality free information as I can. Especially when it comes to building confidence. Young adults is where I really focus in on for this. I believe with the right people guiding them and the right information they can change the world if not for everybody at least for themselves.
Tips on Boosting Self-Confidence for Teens
Whether you're a male or female teen, your self-confidence is important. While the emphasis is often on girls' self-esteem, boys need to be confident, too, and often struggle just as much (although perhaps in different areas). Here are some tips to help teens build their self-confidence.
Recognize Your Talents
It's easy to blow off your abilities, especially if your peers make fun of them (and they probably do soout of jealousy). But get serious with yourself and make a list of things you love to do and are good at. Keep this list just for yourself and look at it often. Remember it when you flunk a test or say something you wish you hadn't. Those talents of yours won't go away, and you can rely on them for the rest of your life...as long as you cultivate them.
Cultivate Your Abilities
You may have so many interests and abilities that it's impossible to develop them all; or, you may have one thing you really love to do. Regardless, look into developing and using some of your abilities in applications beyond school. Not only will it open more opportunities to look for activities around your community, but it might also remove you from peer judgment.
Be Like a Duck
Have you ever heard the expression that you should be like a duck and let negative words and attitudes roll off your back? It's a good thing to cultivate - if you take every criticism or off-hand comment to heart, you might find yourself paralyzed with fear of other's judgment. Remember, school and teenage-hood are not forever. You will get out of this stage and you shouldn't let the criticisms of others sabotage your future, which lasts a lot longer than middle and high school!
When you look at your friends, classmates, or pictures of celebrities, try to resist the temptation to scrutinize them as the gold standard to which you should aspire. Someone will always have better legs, superior athletic prowess, nicer hair, etc. than you. But those people don't set the standard for you; you are who you are, and they can't measure up to that, either!
Listen to the Inner Voice - Then Tell It to Shut Up
Stop and listen to your inner thoughts for a while. What do you automatically think of yourself in response to certain situations? What do you say to yourself when you wake up, interact with friends, or go to class? If you are tearing yourself down with negative thoughts, you need to stop. Address the negative self-talk and replace it with positive self-talk instead.
I hope you enjoyed this entry and if you gained something please leave a comment.
Thank you for reading and remember
It is your life, live it by your design.
Tim Thomas
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
