Success &amp; Personal Development

Monday, December 21, 2015

Tips for Change "Methods Of Self-Esteem Improvement"

Hi Webbers,

Monday is here and I am excited. I went to see Star Wars awakens this weekend and no spoilers here. However I will say my daughter fell asleep 30 minutes in to the Movie. We left there and we are HUGE Disney freaks so infinity here we go with the Awakens play set. I love hanging out with my child she definitely has character. Self -Esteem Improvement - I hope you enjoy it!

Methods Of Self-Esteem Improvement

Many of us suffer from low self esteem and lack self confidence, you'll be happy to know that there are many methods for self esteem improvement.

The first question you should ask yourself when attempting to improve your self esteem is whether there are issues that need to be addressed with a professional counselor. This is particularly true if your low self esteem is driving you to abuse alcohol or other drugs and is interfering in your life in a major way. If so, you may need to speak with a therapist or counselor who specializes in self esteem issues.

If you want to raise your self esteem but are not having major self esteem problems, then a trip to the local library or book store may help. There are hundreds of self help books, self help groups, self help tapes, self help videos to choose from as self help is a particularly hot topic these days. You may even want to hire a personal coach. These tools will help you improve your self esteem dramatically if you put the advice and recommendations that you receive into action.

One of the real keys to improving self esteem is in taking action. Many people who suffer from low self esteem often get stuck in a rut which drives their self esteem even lower. To raise self esteem, you need to set goals for yourself and then take the necessary actions to meet these goals. Just taking continual action will move you closer towards goal attainment and stop you feeling as if you are worthless and at the mercy of others.

Pay close attention to how you talk. Negative self talk is a real self esteem killer. Make a habit of trading the words “I can’t” to “I will” Having positive expectations will go along way towards increasing you self esteem.

And don't feel as if you're alone. There are thousands of people just like you that of people who suffer from low self esteem and need to improve how they look at themselves and the world around them. You are not alone and you can create the life that you dream of, you just need to start taking steps in the right direction. The sooner you start the sooner you can start enjoying your life as it was meant to be enjoyed.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

Monday, December 7, 2015

Tips for Change "Gaining Self Confidence To Succeed In Anything"

Hi Webbers,

Oh my what a hectic week I am tired right now I have been non stop on a project since Sunday. I am sipping a beverage and listening to my girls go to sleep. This weeks tip is on how to gain self confidence. I hope you enjoy the read. I struggled with my self confidence in to my twenties. I hope this helps get you there earlier and if its later... well good for you to have the courage to change! Enjoy the read and I will speak to you soon.

Gaining Self Confidence To Succeed In Anything

Where does self confidence come from? How do we get it? Why don’t I have it? The answer to all of these questions can be answered with one word – you! Self confidence starts with you, your perception of yourself, and what other people think about your actions or behavior.

For some of us, a lack of self confidence only affects our high ambitions. You might have always wanted to get up on stage, or to be a professional singer or actor for example. Perhaps your life dream is to travel the world, visit different countries or cities, but you don’t have the self confidence to do it. For others, the problem of self confidence is much closer to home - in the office, business meetings, public speaking events or presentations.

Self confidence issues affect most of us at some time, and we can usually find ways of getting around the problem. Avoidance is one tactic we often use – if we can get out of an intimidating situation we’ll make up excuses not to take part. However, there are times when we can’t get out of it, or we really don’t want to. If a lack of self confidence is preventing you from doing trying something new, or from succeeding in your working life, it’s time to do something about it.

The starting point in improving your self confidence is understanding what causes the problem. Low self esteem, not believing in yourself or your ability, feeling inadequate compared to your colleagues or friends or maybe some kind of trauma from your childhood are all contributing factors. By examining the reasons for your low self confidence, you’re halfway there!

Taking positive action to overcome your fears is the next step to help boost your self confidence. A simple way to do this is by taking on small challenges. You have allowed your brain to associate certain events or actions with fear, so you’ve already pre-empted the outcome of these situations. By taking a small step towards conquering this, you’ll find that the result is most likely not as bad as you think – in fact, you’ll probably be surprised about how good you feel and your self confidence will instantly increase.

When you’ve completed your first small challenge, congratulate yourself on achieving your aim. A small reward can often help. You’re already on the right path to improving your self confidence, so you’re ready to take it to the next level. This doesn’t need to be a huge task; you don’t want to undo all the good work. Building up your self confidence takes time, and while you might want to leap ahead, it can be a good idea to take things slowly at first. Steadily increase the risks you’re taking to get your self confidence to where you want to be. Risk taking does not, of course, mean jumping off a bridge, but the perceived risk of something happening as a result of your actions is usually the biggest barrier with self confidence.

Self confidence problems are common for most people, and there are excellent resources to learn to deal with these issues, but if you do have severe difficulty facing certain situations you should seek professional help.
Webbers I really hope you enjoyed this reading and I am already looking forward to next week.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

Monday, November 9, 2015

Tips for Change "Consciousness in Healing the Hidden Self"

Hi Webbers,

It is another Monday and we are here with your tips for change! I am stoked right now. I had the best weekend in a long time. I started by taking a mini vacation last week starting on Wednesday. If it was only that easy I didn't get to shut my phone down until Friday. However I did it. I devoted the whole day to my daughter. We went to Burger King hung out in the play area. Then we went and burned a few hours at Toys R us. We had a blast! on Saturday we had a party for her and she had a sleep over.

Today was back to reality for us. Tough day. She went back to school and I went back to work.

What a great topic we have in store for you today. I have really spent the last four years working on this topic. I can't say enough how related Self conscious and self awareness really is. This is still a work in progress for me and I don't want to spoil it by talking here about the methods I use. However here is this weeks Tips for Change.

Consciousness in Healing the Hidden Self

The acts of self-consciousness and self-control go hand in hand. The fact is that when we are self-conscious we are better able to exhibit self-control. There are many persons out there that are not self aware or conscious of themselves and they are not in control of their emotions and actions. Being self-aware is important as it can affect our self-development and progression through life. It is crucial that we are able to be aware of all that we do and say and know that these things will affect circumstances as well. Being self-conscious is not always a bad thing as we like to think but if we relate it to being self-aware, we see the benefits.

If we are self-aware, it is less likely that we will act on impulse. It is more likely the case that we will be ready and able to assess a situation properly and show self-control in deciding how to approach the situation. The self-awareness that we possess will therefore directly affect our self-control. It is crucial that we are able to become self-aware persons in order to grab control of our emotions and actions. This can be done in many ways but these depend on the will power of the individual involved and the desire to take control of their lives.

Some of the ways to move the process to self-awareness and self-control along include the need for professional assistance. There are many programs that offer techniques to assist in this process. These are offered by many self-development persons and are a good start if we do not have the time or will power to devote to the process on our own. We may not make the time unless we are enrolled in a class or unless we are motivated externally to do so. In these cases, the programs can be a great starting point.

If we do have some self-control then it is good to try the other option of working on self-awareness and control on our own. There are many persons that have highlighted the great benefits of the use of meditation. This can assist the individual greatly as it leads the exploration into self and opens the awareness that is needed for better self-control. Meditation has numerous benefits to its users aside from these. It has been reputed to be of assistance in stress relief and the prevention of more serious illnesses such as heart disease and many more. The relaxing effect of meditation and the exploration into self-are able to translate to a better awareness overall and better self control.

The downside of meditation is that it can take a while to reap benefits and there are often persons that will become bored with the process and not give the method the required time to assist them. Meditation is not an overnight fix by any means and can take months and years of dedication for you to achieve all the results. The meditation process requires quiet and peace, which can often be hard for many of us to source. Not all these challenges however stop the fact that it is one of the best ways to grasp control of self and become more self-aware.

There are other factors that can assist and that can lead you down the road to better self-awareness and self-control. There is a lot of information available in self-development sites that show you the importance of self-awareness and self-control to your life. These are things that can greatly affect the quality of your life and should not be disregarded.

Webbers I really hope you enjoyed this reading and I am already looking forward to next week.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

Monday, November 2, 2015

Tips for change "Confidence Through Neuro-linguistic Programming And Self-hypnosis"

Hi Webbers,

For those of you that have kept up with me over the years. Know I have invested a lot of time and money learning a lot of different ways to help people. I want to be able to have every resource available to work with a client and I think they deserve every option possible. Today's Tips for Change is a pleasure to present.

In doing so I was looking at some old pictures with my daughter and she is asking who is

that and when I told her it was me she said no way. Laughing I said what do you mean? She said you don't wear glasses and you are skinny. Great I guess the nickname tubby Timmy is sticking. I love my daughter and the goofy times we have together. We will be off celebrating another year this weekend. Time flies when you are having fun!

Enough about that I hope you enjoy this weeks article. Lastly we have incorporated a community section on the site www.2-help-u.com . Please send an email if you want proffered status we are still in Beta Testing. Click on the community link if you want to sneak a peak.

"Confidence Through Neuro-linguistic Programming And Self-hypnosis"

Self confidence is an emotional and mental state of mind which responds to our need for self-acceptance and recognition. It's among the oldest and most studied concepts in psychology. It is used to describe a good albeit adequate perception of oneself and one's abilities. Hence, self-confident people generally have a better knowledge of what they are able to achieve and are more likely to be successful in what they attempt. They are also more likely to accept and learn from their mistakes.

Contrarily, a lack of confidence may deter you from trusting that your actions or decisions will ultimately turn out the way you had planned. It can thus hamper the buildup of executive skills, planning and managerial abilities all of which are basic and mandatory skills in today's business world. The pre-occupation with other people's judgment of your work might also cause you to become too self-critical, which will distract you from things you would have otherwise been totally able to do.

Low self confidence will also have an impact your social life, because people with a low level of self confidence tend to stay in their "comfort zone" and dread the risk of rejection. This is called social phobia and presents a high level of co-morbidity with low self confidence, but also other mental conditions such as depression. People with low self confidence are afraid of being judged by their peers and will avoid talking to new people, which can result in isolation and even lower self confidence. Low self confidence is a vicious circle that is hard to break.

On the other hand, because they believe in their own aptitudes, self-confident persons are able to do what they feel is right and don't expect the approval of their peers. They also trigger confidence: your boss, employees, customers, friends or relatives are more likely to trust you or what you are telling them when you appear self-confident.

Different experiences can contribute to low self confidence. New research indicates that parenting style has a major impact on the development of the self confidence of children. Bodily and emotional abuses during childhood are for example the worse for a person's self confidence, as well as divorce and family conflicts. Overprotective parents may also be a reason for a child's social phobia and hamper the independence that is necessary to develop self confidence. Successes and failures, for example at school or in one's professional life, also play a significant role: losing a job or failing a class are among the several experiences that will have a negative impact on your self confidence.

There are nonetheless methods to overcome such bad experiences and gain self confidence. The first step to build self confidence would be to learn to know who you are and what your strengths are. Recognizing that you are allowed not to be perfect and cannot be the best in all that you do will help you gain self confidence. Accepting yourself as you are is the key to building self confidence. But improving self confidence also requires that you start taking risks and giving yourself credit for your accomplishments. This is very simple advice which will help you develop self confidence. You may also find many books which will claim they can help you gain self confidence, however not all of them are reliable.

A lot people suffer from low self confidence or are only able to gain self confidence in one or

a few areas of their lives because they constantly look for other people's approval and are afraid that they could fail. A lot of factors, like childhood traumas, can explain why some people cannot enjoy the wholesome life a self confident individual could have. These persons also do not always know how to gain self confidence. However gaining self confidence can now readily and effectively be done with hypnosis and NLP.

As we have seen before low self confidence and social phobia can be caused by bad experiences or unconscious fears which are sometimes hard to overcome with self persuasion only. Confidence hypnosis and NLP on the contrary are able to get to the unconscious part of our brain and change belief systems to boost self confidence. They are effective tools that will help you face your fears and believe in yourself to develop self confidence.

Hypnosis for building confidence has been in use for a few decades and has shown significant results in building self confidence. In a hypnotic state, reaching unconscious thoughts is a lot easier and, through hypnotic suggestion, it is possible to replace your negative thought patterns with positive ones to boost self-confidence.

Webbers I really hope you enjoyed this reading and I am already looking forward to next week.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

Monday, October 26, 2015

Tips for Change "Boost Your Self-Esteem and Believe You Can"

Hi Webbers,

Monday comes so fast. It feels like I just stopped working minutes ago yet the weekend is gone. I have that little doll house project and the deadline is fast approaching. I am also working on credentialing my coaching business. I am changing and learning so much through the process. What free time I have is being put in to getting some momentum. Here is this weeks tip for change.

Boost Your Self-Esteem and Believe You Can

The strongest single factor in prosperity consciousness is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.
- Jerry Gillies

Self-esteem refers to how you think and feel about yourself. These are thoughts and feelings a person
may have, may it be positive, negative, or mixed --- about one's self. The more positive these thoughts and feelings are, the higher your self-esteem will be and conversely the more negative these thoughts and feelings are, the lower your self-esteem will become.

Feeling good about yourself is important as it gives you a sense of control over your life. It can also help make a person feel satisfied in a relationship. With a positive self-identity, a person is able to set realistic expectations for oneself and pursue goals. Having a negative self-perception, on the other hand, results in a distorted view of one's self, which leads to further lack of self-confidence, poor performance, and depression.

In recent times, low self-esteem has been one of the most popular and frequently invoked
psychological explanations for behavioral and social problems. Taking their cue from social commentators and media opinion leaders, people have been willing to accept that a limited sense of self-worth lies behind just about every social and personal ill from drug abuse and delinquency to poverty and business failures. The result has been a huge market for self-help manuals and educational programs.

People who have a low self esteem rely heavily on their day-to-day performances. The positive external experience and encouragements help them to battle the negative feelings that they have about themselves. These negative feelings very often trouble the people with low self-esteem. In some situations, feelings of inadequacy torture those who do not have enough confidence about themselves and about what they can do.

There are many known ways to improve one's self-esteem. To boost one's confidence, it may be
helpful to practice the following self-improvement techniques and strategies:

Rebutting the inner critic that keeps on sending self-defeating messages;

Practicing the art of self nurturing; and

Getting much-needed help and support from people who are close to you.

The first and the most important step to increase self esteem is to tell the inner voice to shut up. The inner voice might say negative things about you. In such a situation you must praise yourself. Rebutting the inner voice that keeps on criticizing you should be done on a regular basis. However this step is not enough to develop self-esteem.

The second step that one must initiate on a way to a healthy self-esteem is that a person should nurture himself. The most important part of this step is start treating yourself as a person who is worth while.

Seek out people who make you feel good. Remember that you get to choose your friends so why not choose people who think you're great?

Moreover, both individual and group counseling can help improve self-esteem. Such therapy might include assertiveness training, communication skills, and learning to recognize and understand your own emotional responses in relation to others. Therapy may also explore early and later experiences that contributed to your low self-esteem. Group therapy is particularly effective that it helps to foster trust and build relationships, and encourages a sense of belonging-components that are important for building self esteem.

Low and poor self-esteem is often the result of bad or a wrong treatment that was experienced in the past. Hence you must start regarding yourself as a worthy person. You must be able to challenge negative experiences in the past and you should start loving yourself. Try to change yourself and show to the outside world that you are valuable, competent, and a love-able person. Learn to develop high self-esteem and believe you can do it, you deserve it, and you will get it.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980