Success &amp; Personal Development

Saturday, June 27, 2015

Avery teaching cross eye's

Sunday, June 14, 2015

6/14/15 Tips for Change "The Link Between Low Self-Esteem and Depression"

Hi Webbers,

I hope you enjoyed your weekend. My weekend could not have come quick enough this week. I work hard at my sales job all week. Have you ever had one of those weeks where nothing seems to go right. I never like to throw in the towel, by Friday I was done after a 45 hour work week. Most know I also perform as a Coach. I find it so fulfilling working with people. I enjoy building my practice and never feel like throwing in the towel. I also work just as hard in my practice. I recruit new coaches and coach. Besides that I am always working to improve some skill.

This week has been my golf swing and I have to say on a positive note. I have it to where it is predictable. Now it is time to hit the driving range and test it. My problem was I could slice the ball and if not that I would top it and snap my driver what an ugly swing. It may not be pretty today but it is predictable. Don't expect to see me on the PGA anytime soon. However not having to buy any

more drivers will suit me just fine.

The goal for this upcoming week will be to sign 3 clients and 3 coaches. At the end of this post will be a link to schedule with me. Want to see how I can help you to change your world. Click on it and lets talk it is free what do you have to lose?

I have some martial training this week out in Winchendon, Mass with Ken Savage. We will be working on some Bujinkan Ninpo Tai-Jutsu. I am so excited I can't wait.

I have a four day work week I took Friday to work on the doll house. I can't wait to see it complete.

The Link between Low Self-Esteem and Depression

There are a lot of people who struggle with confidence issues, but there are those whose struggle goes much deeper than their confidence level. Those with low self-esteem seem to be more likely to struggle with depression. So are low self-esteem and depression linked and if so, how?

What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem refers to someone's level of self-worth and self-respect. It goes much deeper than just confidence. It comes down to how that person feels about him or herself as a person.

What Is Depression?

Depression is a feeling of sadness, hopelessness, or despondency that is usually long lasting and affects the quality of life of the person suffering.

How Are They Connected?

Often, people who have low self-esteem tend to also struggle with depression. It goes both ways, however. Depression itself can also lead to low self-esteem. It is quite common for someone who is struggling with one of these issues, especially over a period of time, to struggle with the other as well.

Why Are They Connected?

When someone does not feel that they are worth anything, or when they show a lack of respect for themselves, this can lead to depression. On the other hand, a person that struggles with depression can eventually turn the depression around on themselves, and it can weigh on their self-esteem.

Vulnerability

In either situation, the link ultimately happens because the person is very vulnerable not only to outside influence, but also to themselves. Someone who has feelings of worthlessness will understandably be very vulnerable to the pull of depression. Someone who is depressed may feel so low that they begin to blame themselves.

A Vicious Cycle

Once someone has entered this state of low self-esteem and depression, it often becomes a cycle. Especially for low self-esteem, these feelings often become self-affirming because the person does not feel worthy of the work it would take to better themselves, which only leads to an overall worsened situation.

The Weight of It All

For friends and loved ones, the inability to “just snap out of it” is not understandable. The fact is that

people who suffer from this vicious cycle often spend their lives feeling like they are treading water on a good day, and drowning from the weight of life itself on bad ones.

Can the Cycle Be Broken?

With patience, understanding, and the affirmation of love from the people around them, the cycle of low self-esteem and depression can be broken. Expect it to take time and work, and you might need to consider professional help in some situations, but the cycle can be broken.

The link between low self-esteem and depression is strong. The vulnerability and feelings of hopelessness bring on a vicious cycle that only feeds into itself, worsening these feelings of worthlessness and depression. There is hope, however, and with the right kind of help, anyone can come back.

Well there you have it. Interesting to think? I have family that suffers from depression and I can say I never really understood it until recently. Years ago I acted very negatively about it. Now I try to understand and not judge. Please notice the try. Old habits are hard to break.

Webbers as always I hope this helped you or you pass it along to someone it can. I am here 2-help-u. I want to be your coach!

I do have some open slots sign up lets talk.

After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

The finest compliment I could ever receive is a referral.

Tim Thomas

Life Coach

A Life by Design Company

PO Box 4327

Manchester, NH 03108

Tel: 603-682-4980

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

6/10/15 Tips for Change "The Balancing Act of Self-Esteem"

Hi Webbers,

It is Wednesday where has the week gone. I fill like I am in turbo and not slowing down. The golf season is here and I am learning it. I have been goofing off with it for two years now I am trying to punch it out. I spend an hour every night on swing practice. My day starts at 0400 hours (4 AM) and ends about 2100 hours (9 PM). As I type up this weeks tips for change I think about self-esteem and how much I struggled with it in my younger years. I was unbalanced forever and still get unbalanced sometimes. Golf is kind of the same way finding that balanced spot works best from what I know right now. What do you struggle with?

The Balancing Act of Self-Esteem

Having a healthy and balanced sense of self-esteem is a major key to living a healthy and happy life. There are two sides to every coin, however. Sometimes self-esteem can become something else - namely, an unbalanced ego. So how do you know if you are simply being confident, or if you are deceiving yourself?

Healthy Self-Esteem

A healthy self-esteem is one where you have the confidence to be honest with yourself, and love yourself no matter what. A healthy self-esteem encourages you to live your life to the fullest, make bold but good choices, and to keep going if and when mistakes are made.

Low Self-Esteem

An unhealthy self-esteem goes two ways. On the one hand, an unhealthy self-esteem leaves you with
zero confidence as well as an often unrelenting fear of making mistakes, and often leads to a poor quality of life. This is typically called low self-esteem.

Over-Inflated Self-Esteem

On the other hand, an over-inflated self-esteem is also unhealthy. This is a form of self-deception that tricks you into thinking that you are better than everyone else and that you can do anything, even to the point of ostracizing your friends and family.

The Dangers of Unbalanced Self-Esteem

Either way, an unbalanced sense of self-esteem can lower your quality of life. People with low self-esteem often miss out on some of the best things that life has to offer. Either they are too afraid to make a mistake, or they feel that they are not worthy of happiness. It is a type of existence that only holds you back.

Relationships

An over-inflated sense of self-esteem puts you in danger of losing friends and close relationships. Outwardly, people with an over-inflated sense of self-esteem come off as cocky or mean. They tend to have trouble gaining and keeping close, loving relationships because they come off as being less than genuine.

Lying to Yourself

Typically, however, an inflated self-esteem is generally a sign of the exact opposite. Most people like this are hiding their true selves and are actually riddled with low self-confidence. The false mask of bravado is not true self-esteem, and this confidence is really just a form of self-deception.

Understanding the Meaning of Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is defined as confidence in your own self-worth, a sense of self-respect. You are not

respecting yourself if you do not believe you are worthy of respect and happiness, nor are you respecting yourself by hiding behind an inflated ego.

Be Honest with Yourself

To truly find your own self-worth and build a true and balanced healthy self-esteem, you have to first be honest with yourself. Stop hiding behind fear or a false sense of confidence. Often, being honest with yourself is harder than being honest with an outside person.

Self-esteem is truly a balancing act that everyone has to work on. To build a healthy and balanced self-esteem you must first and foremost be honest with yourself. Only then can you start to work on your view of the world as a whole and make real changes that could change your life for the better.

I hope this helped you or you pass it along. I am here 2-help-u. I want to be your coach!

I do have some open slots sign up lets talk

After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

The finest compliment I could ever receive is a referral.

Tim Thomas

Life Coach

A Life by Design Company

PO Box 4327

Manchester, NH 03108

Tel: 603-682-4980

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

6/1/15 Tips for Change "Surprising Causes of Low Self-Esteem"

Hi Webbers,

Happy Monday - I hope your weekend was fun. Saturday was hot - I had to spend some time on the lawn and raking the wirlies. Sunday as most know it was wonderfully and rainy.

Surprising Causes of Low Self-Esteem

Do you suffer from low self-esteem? If so, to truly work towards building a stronger self-esteem it's important to understand the origins of your problems. There is typically a defining factor, sometimes a combination of many that are responsible for the beginnings of low self-esteem. Some of these contributing factors might surprise you.

Childhood Influences

Growing up around someone who struggled with low self-esteem can often cause a child to develop

similar issues. It is a learned behavior that follows you into adulthood and throughout your life.

Authority Figures

Whether you had a parent or other person that struggled with low self-esteem, the authority figures in your life often contributes to feelings of inadequacy. This can happen many ways.

In some cases, a parent or other authority figure can be unsupportive of your decisions and accomplishments, which makes you feel like you were not good enough no matter how hard you tried. These often unrealistic expectations can bring out the worst in anyone.

In other cases, there is such a thing as being too involved. Parents or other authority figures that put too much responsibility or stress to be perfect on a child often do so out of love, but are in fact causing pain and anguish that come in the form of self-esteem. Again, no one can live up to unrealistic expectations.

Unstable Childhood

An unstable or chaotic childhood can often make a child feel insecure, and those feelings can reflect on a child's feelings of self-worth. Very authoritarian or overly permissive households, lots of arguing or yelling, split families, and moving around a lot can all create chaotic childhoods like this.

Past Abuse

Traumatic events in any form can cause low self-esteem. This can be past emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, especially when the abuse occurred during childhood or at the hand of a trusted family member or authority figure.

Bad Relationships

A bad relationship - especially one that is emotionally abusive or bereft, can bring on feelings of inadequacy and contribute to low self-esteem. A bad break-up or being left by a loved one can cause you to focus on your own faults as a partner, eventually leading to self-esteem issues.

Influential Friends

There are some people who, perhaps without realizing it, project their own self-esteem issues on others by making them feel bad about themselves. To build themselves up, they tend to pick on the people around them. Being close to someone like this can tend to have a toxic effect on your own self-esteem.

Competition

Competition can sometimes bring out the worst in people. Whether it is at work, at school, or even at home in some situations, too much competition can sometimes cause feelings of inadequacy. This can happen in childhood and even in adulthood.

Pressures of Society

The overall pressures of society are probably one of the number one causes of low self-esteem. Trying to make your way in the world is hard enough without worrying about the expectations of everyone around you. Giving in too much to the pressure can often lead to low self-esteem.

Where do you think your self-esteem issues began? If you can pinpoint even a few of the contributing factors, it can go a long way towards overcoming low self-esteem and becoming a stronger, healthier person.

I hope this helped you or you pass it along. I am here 2-help-u. I want to be your coach!

After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

The finest compliment I could ever receive is a referral.

Tim Thomas

Life Coach

A Life by Design Company

PO Box 4327

Manchester, NH 03108

Tel: 603-682-4980