Tips for Change "Test Your Self Esteem"

Webbers,

It is Monday and time for this weeks Tips for change. I have had to make a lot of adjustments in the last month it has been tough. Someone in my life who means a whole lot to me has been making poor choices in their life. The pain they have been causing has been terrible to watch. It truly shows that in order for anyone to be of service to another they must want change. It has been one small shift after the other. This experience truly shows me that change is possible if you commit. It takes one small step. I got the chance to watch the new move Creed. What great motivation stories Stallone has achieved. In it the mantra they tote is "One step one punch one round". You could also recall "You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!"

Change is hard and I hope they stay the course. Other than that we are getting through each and every day with it's twists and turns. Stay balanced my friends.

Test Your Self Esteem

Do you have trouble landing a dream job, maintaining healthy relationships or simply feeling good
about your day-to-day decisions? You may suffer from low self-esteem. Testing your self-esteem is an easy and valuable way to discover underlying problems and begin to work on areas that need improvement. Self-esteem tests are available in many magazines, books and online. Taking these tests can be fun because there really are no right or wrong answers.

Be truthful in your answers. Lying on a self-esteem test will only result in an incorrect assessment. Do not waste your time cheating on the questions; you will only be cheating yourself. If you are honest and truthful in your answers, you will discover your weaknesses and begin the process of building your confidence.

Admit your shortcomings. Before you can improve your confidence, you must realize that your self-esteem needs improvement. That can be the hardest part of the entire process. Although no one likes to admit to weaknesses, a truly successful self-esteem exercise will require it. There is no room for vanity if you really want to improve yourself.

Once you have honestly completed your self-esteem test, you will learn what aspects of your personality you need to focus on. The next step is to use resources such as self-help books, videos or audio exercises on tape or CD to help improve your self esteem issues.

If you feel that you might need a boost in your confidence, take a few self-esteem tests that are available in books or online. Be honest in your answers. You will most likely be surprised by what you learn, and you will be able to begin a self-esteem improvement routine to top up your confidence level. You will be on your way to landing that dream job or finding the love of your life. Best of all, you will be happier with yourself.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "Start Building Self Esteem Today"

Morning Webbers,

It is Tuesday morning and my blog is going out late. It seems my trusted computer has decided to go on the decline. It has been a good tool and live a full and happy life of 7 years. It's replacement is here and if lives as long it will be well worth the investment. If not well shame on me for not investing in quality.

Speaking of quality and investing. How do you invest in yourself? Do you go for quality or quantity. How do you invest in others? I am in a situation currently where the person says they want to change. They have a little. However they are not making the investment. Sometimes it is frustrating to know the potential someone holds. We can see what needs to be done. Yet the person we are speaking to or working with does not see it. As a coach we are taught to stay as an observer and that way we can keep open and not close ourselves in with the client. As family we want to see a successful outcome and we do get inside which adds to our frustration and the anger sets in as to why can't I fix this. The problem is it isn't our problem. It is their problem and only they can fix it and they have to choose to fix it. Then we can be of help or a resource for them.

This leads us into today's topic Start Building Self Esteem Today. Enjoy the read and I hope you chose well.

Start Building Self Esteem Today

What Is Self Esteem?

High self esteem is an extremely important characteristic of all highly successful people. Without

high levels of self esteem you are unlikely to see yourself as being worthy of success or happiness, and as a result will never truly try your hardest to achieve it.

High self esteem will give you the courage to keep going when things get tough, and believe in yourself when others say you will never accomplish something. Developing and building self esteem is therefore one of the most important and valuable things you could ever do for yourself. Unfortunately, the value of self esteem is often overlooked, yet the truth is we could all improve our level of self esteem in some way or another.

Things That Build Self Esteem

The things that improve your self esteem are quite simple. Basically anything that makes you feel good about yourself, makes you feel important or valuable as a person will build your level of self esteem. So if your life is full of these things on a consistent daily basis, then your level of self esteem will automatically rise.

However the opposite is also true. So anything that makes you feel bad, reduces your feelings of worthiness or importance, will lower your self esteem.

Causes Of Low Self Esteem

So when you look at self esteem like this, you can see that overall self esteem is just a balance between things that make you feel good, and things that make you feel bad. If you feel good more often than you do bad, you will have high self esteem and vice versa.

So why is this important? Well many people who suffer from low levels of self esteem continue to expose themselves to things that make them feel bad. They may hang around with the same people everyday who laugh at them, or treat them disrespectfully. They may talk to themselves in a way that lacks respect, such as saying they are a looser or that they can’t do anything. Or they may do other things which day by day make them feel the same way.

Change Your Life, Change Your Thoughts

So the key here is change. If you are able to identify the things that make you feel bad, and replace them with the things that make you feel good, ultimately your self esteem will improve. You won’t have to try to improve and build up your self esteem, it will just happen automatically.

This principle of change is so simple it is often overlooked, because people become used to doing the same things day in day out. The trouble with this is that by doing the same things everyday, your thought patterns remain the same everyday and so you FEEL the same everyday. This is the real value and importance of change, which is why sometimes you need to change your life first, before you can change your thoughts.

Change will break your current thought patterns and create new patterns of thought. It is up to you to create patterns that will improve and enrich your life, and you do this by exposing yourself to things that make you feel good about yourself and raise your value as a person.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "Shape Self in Society for Self Identity"

Hi Webbers,

It is Monday evening close to early morning and it has been one of those days. It is amazing how people believe because you hold a certain station in life that you don't have any problems, challenges or frustrations. It couldn't be any further from the truth as in the movie Rocky quote "It ain't all sunshine and rainbows." Today has been one of those days for me. Quite challenging. It is fitting that today's tips for change is on self identity. I struggled with this and still do. I have made lots of mistakes.

For those of you who don't know I have been on the self development train for a long time it is only in the last six years that I have been driving the train so to say. I need to make some changes and raise some standards and have had to become brutally honest. Not just for myself. My daughter is the most important person in my life. Tonight everything gets put on hold after dinner. We go down to our basement I work out she plays and then we do an hour of martial study.

I have to remember and this is where I struggle in my own nature. I feel it on most days I have a rage that burns deep down inside me and would also carry me through any tragedy I could ever face good bad or different. I have been in lots of trouble because of this - I also have reaped the benefits of it. Where does it come from - I can finally say it was environmentally driven. The way I grew up with all the adversity I faced. When I train. This rage can come out pretty easy and in the flow of moving it can get away from me. These days it is transforming for me I am able to look from a different view whether it is from meditating or mindfulness. I believe it comes from trying to be more compassionate, understanding and loving.

Now I have a six year old that I am trying to pass on thousands of years of martial information. Nothing to serious but enough to make her know it is. As we move through the exercises we are working on. We are talking about the reality of how mean people can be. As we move back into a defensive stance and hands up and there is no need for trouble here. She says on her own I am here to help. Then she goes into about the movie of Big Hero Six how the person wasn't really a bad person. She already understands that people can loose themselves. Zero judgement just that it is in Human nature. How amazed I was. I had to tell her how much I loved her. I am blessed to have her in my life.

I would much rather live a life of love and compassion than one of anger and resentment. I hope you enjoy today's Tips for change.

Shape Self in Society for Self Identity

Our self identity has a special place in our lives. Our self identity forms an intrinsic part of our identity and is an important area of study when studying about the intricacies of human nature. Each and every individual needs to acknowledge his self identity in order to make sense of the purpose of his life and for his own well being.

Realizing our self identity helps us to realize the main purpose of our lives and determine the kind of person we’ll like to be in our future. Self identity plays a very important part in determining the goals of our lives and greatly influences a person’s mind and shaping his general school of thought. The way a person perceives his inner self also plays a very important part in determining the course of action taken by an individual to achieve a particular goal and to constantly monitor, evaluate and redirect his pursuits. The inner self is responsible for shaping a person’s behavior, self-esteem, motivation and experience. It is responsible for building interpersonal relationships as well.

The society in which we live also has an important part to play in shaping up our inner self. The self of the society and the self-environment are connected with each other. Most of the people tend to neglect their inner self relating to the society and their immediate surroundings. They need to realize that self identity is an important part of our inner self, which allows an individual to understand his relationship with the world and himself in a better manner. Even if some individual refuses to acknowledge his inner self, he cannot possibly deny its existence as well. Inner self is present in every individual whether he acknowledges it or not.

A person can acknowledge his inner self by indulging in meditation and yoga. These exercises help an individual to calm his senses and realize his hidden powers and inner identity. It is very important for a person to realize his inner self and latent strengths and weaknesses in order to trigger the process of self-development.

A lot of people nowadays suffer from the problem of identity crisis. Individuals are so entangled in

their hectic professional and personal work front that they get absolutely no time to discover themselves and acknowledge what they are truly capable of.

It will not be wrong to say that materialistic elements, such as individualism and egoism have made people wary of humanitarian traits, such as compassion and kindness. They tend to think only for their own vested interests. Philosophers believe that people are fast forgetting the fact that our self-identity and self-environment are intimately connected with each other. If a person becomes too self-obsessed with himself and starts neglecting the well-being of environment around him, it is impossible for him to successfully accomplish the process of self-development and find his self identity amidst the identity of the society and self-environment.

Our self-environment has also been suffering a setback as the number of crimes has been increasing steadily. People find it extremely difficult to trust the security and other social organizations, which delay the growth of society and self-environment all the more.

A person can even look around his environment and several elements in the society and try to seek inspiration for the purpose of development of his inner self and self environment. Seeking inspiration from our environment can help us to create awareness about ourselves and our inner weaknesses and how to overcome them. It helps us to gain self confidence and build faith over ourselves. Self identity of the society and self-environment share a very deep bond which can be only understand when an individual tries to accept himself for what he is, with all his faults and strengths.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Ready for change

Choose to focus on the positive then watch your life change. Are you ready? Let's talk.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com
https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training
http://thomatf.tumblr.com/

Tips for Change " Self-motivation - The Desire To Succeed"

Hi Webbers,

I hope all is well on this snowy Monday. In my life things are going well. I look forward to a very prosperous spring. Currently I am working to finish up the last of my coaching. I still have slots available for sample sessions and look forward to serving.

This weeks Tips for Change is Self-motivation. What motivates you? I can say I look forward to tackling every day and to see what gifts the world has to offer me. I have a plan for every day and work that plan.

I have to be honest I have been mentally unstable and have had to deal with the results and the poor choices I have made. However I know remind my self with three little questions that my mind focused. I will tell you about that strategy another time. Enjoy the Tips!

Self-motivation - The Desire To Succeed

It's 6 in the morning. The alarm clock is buzzing, and you're thinking to yourself, "What's the point in getting up this early for work?" For some of us, the motivation is simply the desire to shut off the clock that is vibrating off the nightstand. But for others, it is truly self-motivation. It is an internal alarm clock that motivates a person to make the best of his or her day.

Certainly, everyone wants to succeed in the world. Everyone wants to have a purpose, to be at the top of the corporate ladder, or to be the best he or she can be in any given area. But why do some people succeed in doing these things, and others do not? The answer is: self-motivation.

There are several factors that contribute to self-motivation. They include:

-Self-esteem
-Desire to succeed
-Will power
-Mental stability
-Family
-Life goals
-Daily activities
-Daily pleasures

All of these factors will directly affect success in a career, in academics, in playing sports, and in marriage and parenting. Whether you desire the highest position possible at your job, or graduating with a 4.0 grade point average, you need self-motivation to do it. Self-motivation drives an athlete to score the winning soccer goal, just as it drives a parent to be a good role model for a child.

Along with the desire to succeed comes mental stability. Everyone has a bad day here and there; but what self-motivates a person to continue on with the bad day? The answer is mental stability. The mind is a great force. When you put your mind to accomplishing something, you will try your best to do it. As a result, your will power is tested. Being able to stay self-motivated and focused on what is important rather than "throwing in the towel" allows you to succeed in the end. Will power, mental stability, and the desire to succeed are all the result of self-motivation.

Another factor that drives self-motivation is the family unit. Family can self-motivate an individual to be successful. An individual - especially a working spouse - will crave the family's pride and approval. The working spouse self-motivates himself or herself simply by worrying whether or not the family is taken care of financially. The working spouse will most likely want to earn a high paycheck, and in the end provide for the family. Children often idolize their parents and will mimic what they see their parents doing. In the end self-motivation is passed on from one generation to the next, as it is an important role in family affairs.

Lastly, self-motivation is driven by daily goals and basic daily routines such as losing weight or learning how to play a sport. The simple daily pleasure of waking up to see the sun shine, to hear the birds singing, or even listening to the rain are all pleasures which can self-motivate a person to get up in the morning.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com
https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training
http://thomatf.tumblr.com/

Tips for Change "Self-hypnosis towards self improvement"

Hi Webbers,

What a week. Much in the world of personal development can be achieved through self-hypnosis. It is as easy as putting yourself in a positive pattern. It is not to say there are no challenges however make sure your goals are bigger than the challenges you face so you look towards the goal and not the challenge. Reward yourself handsomely for staying on target. Celebrate the small wins not just the completion. I hope your week shows as much promise as mine does. Enjoy this weeks reading.

Self-hypnosis towards self improvement

Self hypnosis is a great tool for goal setting and self improvement. Most people are surprised at how easy it is to learn self-hypnosis. And self-hypnosis, in turn, makes a lot of things much easier.

Self hypnosis is usually thought of as a person listening to an audio tape, mp3, or other mass-produced media, intended to induce a willingness to absorb suggestions centered around a specific topic such as weight loss, stop smoking, etc.

Unfortunately, this kind of hypnosis is generally prepared by someone who has never met the person being hypnotized, often presenting unwanted, even unpleasant imagery and suggestions.

For example, if you sunburn easily, that last thing you want to hear about is a slow walk on a sunny beach. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis simply means that you listen to it by yourself.
How do you incorporate self improvement to hypnosis?

To be able to go about self improvement, there are certain aspects in you that should be addressed. Using hypnosis, the negative aspects that are serving as hindrances to improvement are eliminated.

A true self hypnosis would necessarily be designed and created by the very person who will ultimately use and benefit from it.

Unlike the mass-produced hypnosis, this hypnosis is made for the exact purpose the person wishes, including the precise words and phrases that mean the most to that particular person.

The true self hypnosis is thus crafted by the person to suit his or her own needs. The benefits derived could only be accomplished with such a personal, one-of-a-kind hypnosis. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis really does mean that you are hypnotized by yourself!

Below is a short view of the self hypnotic process. Though lots of variations of this method have been used, these are the basic steps you have to go through in order to hypnotize yourself to accomplish self improvement.

1. Position your goals from the most important goal to the less important. If possible, your goals should be measurable.

2. For each goal, you should formulate fitting suggestions which means you have to convert your goals into specific instructions to your subconscious mind on how to achieve each goal.

3. Relaxation. Use the first minutes of your self hypnotic session to get as relaxed as possible. Try to forget all your worries and problems.

4. Start your hypnotic initiation phase by saying and repeating out loud the hypnotic words you have chosen, thinking of these words or listening to a hypnotic tape or CD customized for your hypnotic and goal fulfillment needs.

5. Apply the hypnotic suggestions you have made for reaching the specific goal you work with, say them out loud, think them or use a tailored hypnotic tape or CD.

Before you start up your self hypnotic exercises you should make a time schedule for it. Do your hypnotic sessions every day, five minutes a day is enough. Repeat your suggestions as often as possible during the day.

Measure your progress. Are you closer to your goal now than you were before you started? Ask yourself. If you answer negative to these questions, you have to rethink and reorganize your train of thoughts.

This is the only way you can find out if this method is really helping you in achieving your self improvement goals.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com
https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training
http://thomatf.tumblr.com/