Tips for Change "Why Coaching is the Way to Go in Team Management"

Hi Webbers,

Tuesday morning here and I am pecking away at the keys here in my office. Waiting for the contractors to be finished installing AC in our new home. I am looking to revamp some of my digital content over the next few weeks to make it more accessible to my friends. I have continued my studies with emotional intelligence and am amazed at it's depths.

As for my family we are enjoying our little resort here in Hudson, NH.

I hope you enjoy this weeks topic of how coaching can help in Team Management. Let me know your thoughts.

Why Coaching is the Way to Go in Team Management

When you hear the word “coach”, what comes first into your mind? Do you picture a basketball team
with a man/woman shouting out directions? Or perhaps a football team with a man/woman pacing to and fro and calling out the names of the players?

Coaching is no longer reserved to sports teams; it is now one of the key concepts in leadership and management. Why is coaching popular?

Coaching levels the playing field.

Coaching is one of the six emotional leadership styles proposed by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, it is a behavior or role that leaders enforce in the context of situational leadership. As a leadership style, coaching is used when the members of a group or team are competent and motivated, but do not have an idea of the long-term goals of an organization. This involves two levels of coaching: team and individual. Team coaching makes members work together. In a group of individuals, not everyone may have nor share the same level of competence and commitment to a goal. A group may be a mix of highly competent and moderately competent members with varying levels of commitment. These differences can cause friction among the members. The coaching leader helps the members level their expectations. Also, the coaching leader manages differing perspectives so that the common goal succeeds over personal goals and interests. In a big organization, leaders need to align the staffs’ personal values and goals with that of the organization so that long-term directions can be pursued.

Coaching builds up confidence and competence.

Individual coaching is an example of situational leadership at work. It aims to mentor one-on-one building up the confidence of members by affirming good performance during regular feedbacks; and increase competence by helping the member assess his/her strengths and weaknesses towards career planning and professional development. Depending on the individual’s level of competence and commitment, a leader may exercise more coaching behavior for the less-experienced members. Usually, this happens in the case of new staffs. The direct supervisor gives more defined tasks and holds regular feedbacks for the new staff, and gradually lessens the amount of coaching, directing, and supporting roles to favor delegating as competence and confidence increase.

Coaching promotes individual and team excellence.

Excellence is a product of habitual good practice. The regularity of meetings and constructive feedback is important in establishing habits. Members catch the habit of constantly assessing themselves for their strengths and areas for improvement that they themselves perceive what knowledge, skills, and attitudes they need to acquire to attain team goals. In the process, they attain individually excellence as well. An example is in the case of a musical orchestra: each member plays a different instrument. In order to achieve harmony of music from the different instrument, members will polish their part in the piece, aside from practicing as an ensemble. Consequently, they improve individually as an instrument player.

Coaching develops high commitment to common goals.

A coaching leader balances the attainment of immediate targets with long-term goals towards the
vision of an organization. As mentioned earlier, with the alignment of personal goals with organizational or team goals, personal interests are kept in check. By constantly communicating the vision through formal and informal conversations, the members are inspired and motivated. Setting short-term team goals aligned with organizational goals; and making an action plan to attain these goals can help sustain the increased motivation and commitment to common goals of the members.

Coaching produces valuable leaders.

Leadership by example is important in coaching. A coaching leader loses credibility when he/she

cannot practice what he/she preaches. This means that a coaching leader should be well organized, highly competent is his/her field, communicates openly and encourages feedback, and has a clear idea of the organization’s vision-mission-goals. By vicarious and purposeful learning, members catch the same good practices and attitudes from the coaching leader, turning them into coaching leaders themselves. If a member experiences good coaching, he/she is most likely to do the same things when entrusted with formal leadership roles.

Some words of caution though: coaching is just one of the styles of leadership. It can be done in combination with the other five emotional leadership styles depending on the profile of the emerging team. Moreover, coaching as a leadership style requires that you are physically, emotionally, and mentally fit most of the time since it involves two levels of coaching: individual and team. Your members expect you to be the last one to give up or bail out in any situation especially during times of crises. A coaching leader must be conscious that coaching entails investing time on each individual, and on the whole team. Moreover, that the responsibilities are greater since while you are coaching members, you are also developing future coaches as well.

I hope this article has helped you in some way. Please reach out below if you would like to continue our discussion.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.


Life, Light & Truth

Tim Thomas, CTACC
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
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Tips for Change "BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO SELF IMPROVEMENT"

Hi Webbers,

 I hope all is well and life is going forward. I am back in the groove and swinging away. I am here to help you on your journey. How can I serve you? Today I am taking a moment to build on Self esteem. Take it from a guy who started out with a very low self esteem as I really was the smallest kid.... This stuff works. Try it you might just like it. The rest of the week will be nose to the grind stone moving forward.

BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO SELF IMPROVEMENT

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded,

controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negatives of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”  

In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change  changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.  Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

I hope this article has helped you bring more innovation into your life. Keep in mind that you're doing these things for your own satisfaction and not anybody else's. But soon enough they will notice, and everything should snowball from there.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.


Life, Light & Truth

Tim Thomas, CTACC
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

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Clarity
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Tips for Change "Happy as You Want to Be!"

Hi webbers!

I hope your Monday went well. I got to visit a clients home today and woah. All I can say is phenomenal. The furniture was custom, the home was beautiful custom wood and all the creature comforts a anyone would like. I am blessed to have such people in my life willing to share their treasure with me. We had a long ride and lots to discuss. This in turn made me think of this topic for discussion. To be as happy as you want to be. What do you chose? Read below and share your thoughts.

Happy as You Want to Be

Almost everyone has heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people happy by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along well with everyone

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.
 
Being grateful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed  as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday.  Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.
 
Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
 
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday.  Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

Life, Light & Truth

Tim Thomas, CTACC
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "The Advantages of Self-Confidence"

Hi Webbers,

What a lovely Monday. My day has been an unbelievable positive day among the challenges of the day. My daughter has a clean bill of health. Thankfully! As the day progressed I had a few design challenges that I needed to get through. Finally I got home and had to take care of the much needed groceries. As my daughter and I traveled to the grocery store she talked about being kind and not hurting anyone. We went through the store and had the most helpful experience. Now was that the luck of the evening I believe it was the intent and the standard we set and we attracted that. We did that. What is your standard? Do you take responsibility for where you are? Our choices get us our lot in life and I have made lots of poor ones. Every poor choice I chose one way or the other. Every morning I get up and choose to set the standard for my daughter. I look at her in awe and how much of an adult she is I love the person she is becoming.

How does this relate to today's Tips for Change. She is a very confident child. She can do things that I am amazed at and I hope she continues on her path! Enjoy the read and remember I am here to help you and want to see you succeed if you are taking the time to read these tips. Please let me know what I can do to help.

The Advantages of Self-Confidence

Self-confident people are able to meet work deadlines

Self-confidence has the ability to make employees perform more effectively at their jobs. Confident employees are able to take on multifaceted tasks with a greater level of commitment and concentration. Self-confidence breeds enthusiasm and lets a person inspire their co-workers. Individuals like these are valuable to an employer because they can get the job done. Self-confident people have the ability to succeed at whatever they put their minds to.

Self-confident people have a positive outlook

A self-confident person is often organized and able to stick to a schedule. Being organized helps a person stay on top of things in every arena of their life. Being able to finish a job on time and well is very encouraging. You can often tell a self-confident person by his smile and cheerful demeanor.

Self-confident people are often healthier

Self-confident people are better equipped to deal with stressful situations with a level head. They are confident that they can make it through any situation and solve any problem. This aids in avoiding such health problems as high blood pressure, hypertension, and even anger. Self-confident people are likely to live a healthier life.

Self-confident people can spend more quality time at home

A good day spent at work often dictates how a person will be at home after work. A sense of accomplishment on the job helps a person be more agreeable with family, and more upbeat. He or she will want to spend more time with family, which is beneficial for everyone.

Self-confident people are better friends and partners

It is easier to invest time in a relationship when you are up on yourself and organized in your life. Self-confident people are often better able to draw the line between work and family, allowing for more balance and harmonious relationships with family and friends. Self-confident people seem to be able to bind relationships through time and care.

Self-confident people have a higher income

Self-confidence helps employees work well independently or as part of a team. They can take the lead, or follow someone else’s instructions without problems or conflict. They are not afraid to acknowledge that they deserve a promotion or raise, and ask for it.

People look up to self-confident people

Self-confident people are more likely to achieve personal and professional successes than someone who looks down on him or herself. Self-confident people have energy and magnetism that draws people in. They believe in themselves and have the courage to solve problems and deal with anything that is thrown their way. People like to be around a self-confident person.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "Test Your Self Esteem"

Webbers,

It is Monday and time for this weeks Tips for change. I have had to make a lot of adjustments in the last month it has been tough. Someone in my life who means a whole lot to me has been making poor choices in their life. The pain they have been causing has been terrible to watch. It truly shows that in order for anyone to be of service to another they must want change. It has been one small shift after the other. This experience truly shows me that change is possible if you commit. It takes one small step. I got the chance to watch the new move Creed. What great motivation stories Stallone has achieved. In it the mantra they tote is "One step one punch one round". You could also recall "You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!"

Change is hard and I hope they stay the course. Other than that we are getting through each and every day with it's twists and turns. Stay balanced my friends.

Test Your Self Esteem

Do you have trouble landing a dream job, maintaining healthy relationships or simply feeling good
about your day-to-day decisions? You may suffer from low self-esteem. Testing your self-esteem is an easy and valuable way to discover underlying problems and begin to work on areas that need improvement. Self-esteem tests are available in many magazines, books and online. Taking these tests can be fun because there really are no right or wrong answers.

Be truthful in your answers. Lying on a self-esteem test will only result in an incorrect assessment. Do not waste your time cheating on the questions; you will only be cheating yourself. If you are honest and truthful in your answers, you will discover your weaknesses and begin the process of building your confidence.

Admit your shortcomings. Before you can improve your confidence, you must realize that your self-esteem needs improvement. That can be the hardest part of the entire process. Although no one likes to admit to weaknesses, a truly successful self-esteem exercise will require it. There is no room for vanity if you really want to improve yourself.

Once you have honestly completed your self-esteem test, you will learn what aspects of your personality you need to focus on. The next step is to use resources such as self-help books, videos or audio exercises on tape or CD to help improve your self esteem issues.

If you feel that you might need a boost in your confidence, take a few self-esteem tests that are available in books or online. Be honest in your answers. You will most likely be surprised by what you learn, and you will be able to begin a self-esteem improvement routine to top up your confidence level. You will be on your way to landing that dream job or finding the love of your life. Best of all, you will be happier with yourself.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "Shape Self in Society for Self Identity"

Hi Webbers,

It is Monday evening close to early morning and it has been one of those days. It is amazing how people believe because you hold a certain station in life that you don't have any problems, challenges or frustrations. It couldn't be any further from the truth as in the movie Rocky quote "It ain't all sunshine and rainbows." Today has been one of those days for me. Quite challenging. It is fitting that today's tips for change is on self identity. I struggled with this and still do. I have made lots of mistakes.

For those of you who don't know I have been on the self development train for a long time it is only in the last six years that I have been driving the train so to say. I need to make some changes and raise some standards and have had to become brutally honest. Not just for myself. My daughter is the most important person in my life. Tonight everything gets put on hold after dinner. We go down to our basement I work out she plays and then we do an hour of martial study.

I have to remember and this is where I struggle in my own nature. I feel it on most days I have a rage that burns deep down inside me and would also carry me through any tragedy I could ever face good bad or different. I have been in lots of trouble because of this - I also have reaped the benefits of it. Where does it come from - I can finally say it was environmentally driven. The way I grew up with all the adversity I faced. When I train. This rage can come out pretty easy and in the flow of moving it can get away from me. These days it is transforming for me I am able to look from a different view whether it is from meditating or mindfulness. I believe it comes from trying to be more compassionate, understanding and loving.

Now I have a six year old that I am trying to pass on thousands of years of martial information. Nothing to serious but enough to make her know it is. As we move through the exercises we are working on. We are talking about the reality of how mean people can be. As we move back into a defensive stance and hands up and there is no need for trouble here. She says on her own I am here to help. Then she goes into about the movie of Big Hero Six how the person wasn't really a bad person. She already understands that people can loose themselves. Zero judgement just that it is in Human nature. How amazed I was. I had to tell her how much I loved her. I am blessed to have her in my life.

I would much rather live a life of love and compassion than one of anger and resentment. I hope you enjoy today's Tips for change.

Shape Self in Society for Self Identity

Our self identity has a special place in our lives. Our self identity forms an intrinsic part of our identity and is an important area of study when studying about the intricacies of human nature. Each and every individual needs to acknowledge his self identity in order to make sense of the purpose of his life and for his own well being.

Realizing our self identity helps us to realize the main purpose of our lives and determine the kind of person we’ll like to be in our future. Self identity plays a very important part in determining the goals of our lives and greatly influences a person’s mind and shaping his general school of thought. The way a person perceives his inner self also plays a very important part in determining the course of action taken by an individual to achieve a particular goal and to constantly monitor, evaluate and redirect his pursuits. The inner self is responsible for shaping a person’s behavior, self-esteem, motivation and experience. It is responsible for building interpersonal relationships as well.

The society in which we live also has an important part to play in shaping up our inner self. The self of the society and the self-environment are connected with each other. Most of the people tend to neglect their inner self relating to the society and their immediate surroundings. They need to realize that self identity is an important part of our inner self, which allows an individual to understand his relationship with the world and himself in a better manner. Even if some individual refuses to acknowledge his inner self, he cannot possibly deny its existence as well. Inner self is present in every individual whether he acknowledges it or not.

A person can acknowledge his inner self by indulging in meditation and yoga. These exercises help an individual to calm his senses and realize his hidden powers and inner identity. It is very important for a person to realize his inner self and latent strengths and weaknesses in order to trigger the process of self-development.

A lot of people nowadays suffer from the problem of identity crisis. Individuals are so entangled in

their hectic professional and personal work front that they get absolutely no time to discover themselves and acknowledge what they are truly capable of.

It will not be wrong to say that materialistic elements, such as individualism and egoism have made people wary of humanitarian traits, such as compassion and kindness. They tend to think only for their own vested interests. Philosophers believe that people are fast forgetting the fact that our self-identity and self-environment are intimately connected with each other. If a person becomes too self-obsessed with himself and starts neglecting the well-being of environment around him, it is impossible for him to successfully accomplish the process of self-development and find his self identity amidst the identity of the society and self-environment.

Our self-environment has also been suffering a setback as the number of crimes has been increasing steadily. People find it extremely difficult to trust the security and other social organizations, which delay the growth of society and self-environment all the more.

A person can even look around his environment and several elements in the society and try to seek inspiration for the purpose of development of his inner self and self environment. Seeking inspiration from our environment can help us to create awareness about ourselves and our inner weaknesses and how to overcome them. It helps us to gain self confidence and build faith over ourselves. Self identity of the society and self-environment share a very deep bond which can be only understand when an individual tries to accept himself for what he is, with all his faults and strengths.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com

Coach Me

Clarity
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Tips for Change "Self-hypnosis towards self improvement"

Hi Webbers,

What a week. Much in the world of personal development can be achieved through self-hypnosis. It is as easy as putting yourself in a positive pattern. It is not to say there are no challenges however make sure your goals are bigger than the challenges you face so you look towards the goal and not the challenge. Reward yourself handsomely for staying on target. Celebrate the small wins not just the completion. I hope your week shows as much promise as mine does. Enjoy this weeks reading.

Self-hypnosis towards self improvement

Self hypnosis is a great tool for goal setting and self improvement. Most people are surprised at how easy it is to learn self-hypnosis. And self-hypnosis, in turn, makes a lot of things much easier.

Self hypnosis is usually thought of as a person listening to an audio tape, mp3, or other mass-produced media, intended to induce a willingness to absorb suggestions centered around a specific topic such as weight loss, stop smoking, etc.

Unfortunately, this kind of hypnosis is generally prepared by someone who has never met the person being hypnotized, often presenting unwanted, even unpleasant imagery and suggestions.

For example, if you sunburn easily, that last thing you want to hear about is a slow walk on a sunny beach. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis simply means that you listen to it by yourself.
How do you incorporate self improvement to hypnosis?

To be able to go about self improvement, there are certain aspects in you that should be addressed. Using hypnosis, the negative aspects that are serving as hindrances to improvement are eliminated.

A true self hypnosis would necessarily be designed and created by the very person who will ultimately use and benefit from it.

Unlike the mass-produced hypnosis, this hypnosis is made for the exact purpose the person wishes, including the precise words and phrases that mean the most to that particular person.

The true self hypnosis is thus crafted by the person to suit his or her own needs. The benefits derived could only be accomplished with such a personal, one-of-a-kind hypnosis. In this case, the "self" in self hypnosis really does mean that you are hypnotized by yourself!

Below is a short view of the self hypnotic process. Though lots of variations of this method have been used, these are the basic steps you have to go through in order to hypnotize yourself to accomplish self improvement.

1. Position your goals from the most important goal to the less important. If possible, your goals should be measurable.

2. For each goal, you should formulate fitting suggestions which means you have to convert your goals into specific instructions to your subconscious mind on how to achieve each goal.

3. Relaxation. Use the first minutes of your self hypnotic session to get as relaxed as possible. Try to forget all your worries and problems.

4. Start your hypnotic initiation phase by saying and repeating out loud the hypnotic words you have chosen, thinking of these words or listening to a hypnotic tape or CD customized for your hypnotic and goal fulfillment needs.

5. Apply the hypnotic suggestions you have made for reaching the specific goal you work with, say them out loud, think them or use a tailored hypnotic tape or CD.

Before you start up your self hypnotic exercises you should make a time schedule for it. Do your hypnotic sessions every day, five minutes a day is enough. Repeat your suggestions as often as possible during the day.

Measure your progress. Are you closer to your goal now than you were before you started? Ask yourself. If you answer negative to these questions, you have to rethink and reorganize your train of thoughts.

This is the only way you can find out if this method is really helping you in achieving your self improvement goals.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
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Tips for Change "Self Hypnosis Secrets"

Good day Webbers,

How are we doing today. I love today's topic of self hypnosis. I used to use it a lot and have drifted back to doing it again. I forgot how important it can be. You can change your mood by focusing in on the good. Simple little transactions can become powerful. Little things that make you all nerved up can be calmed.

What are you struggling with? Are you willing to try? I bet it helps. Reach out and let me know. I am here to help you.

Self Hypnosis Secrets

Self-hypnosis or auto suggestion is a process by which an individual can train herself to let her mind believe in something in the subconscious state. Self-hypnosis is also termed autogenous training. Self-hypnosis procedures follow various methods to accomplish a certain objective. One can easily get into a sate of mental visualization or self-induced brainwashing with the help of self-hypnosis.

Self-hypnosis can be learnt and practiced by any individual through practice. While it is easy to understand and learn self-hypnosis, it is important to note that it shouldn't be practiced while driving or eating or drinking. One should be in a stationary mode and have focus on the goal to be achieved. One should be able to garner complete attention to the process of self-hypnosis and not diverted by any other act.

There are three major techniques of self-hypnosis - visual imagery, eye fixation and progressive relaxation. All three techniques may not be suitable to all individuals. For example, visual imagery technique of self-hypnosis works best with those who have more than average visualization capabilities.

Visual imagery is a technique demanding imagination of a beautiful place after closing your eyes.

You must be able to listen to the sound in that image setting and actually see everything as if it is happening in reality around you. Eye fixation technique is suitable for those who are unable to properly visualize, but possess better concentration power. This technique involves continuously watching an object and trying to get into the state of thoughtlessness. Progressive relaxation technique involves slowly relaxing parts of your body with the help of reverse counting. One starts from the toes and reaches the brain part one after another. This technique works great for those who are better able to control the parts of their body.

Some practitioners of self-hypnosis suggest turning off lights and music while practicing self-hypnosis. This is a debatable issue. Research has shown that some people are better able to practice the skills of self-hypnosis when they have light music and low wattage bulb in the room. Some debates also rage on the timing of self-hypnosis practice. Experts suggest the beginners to find the ideal time slot of their own. One may try different timing in the day and then settle for the most suitable for that individual.

Self-hypnosis can be done for self-actualization, but if you plan to do it for pain relief or other such medical treatments, it is strongly recommenced to get in touch with your doctor first.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.


I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.



THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas
Life / Success Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
info@aionnh.com
www.2-help-u.com
https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training
http://thomatf.tumblr.com/

Tips for Change "Performance - Turbo-Charge Your Life With Powerful Self-Talk"

Hey Webbers,

I hope you are having an amazing week! What a topic to get into this week. Self-talk amazing what can happen. I have a personal challenge to anyone who reads this post. Try positive self talk for 90 days and see if it makes a difference really dedicate yourself to the change. I am sure you will have come real gains in your life. If not I will coach you just reach out to me by email you will find my contact information below.

Now to get into this weeks topic which is just in time for New Years. Hint, hint.

Performance - Turbo-Charge Your Life With Powerful Self-Talk

Self-talk is the inner chatter that accompanies us in most of our waking moments. Your self-talk can be a powerful aid to your performance, or it can be destructive.

What do you say when you talk to yourself? If you're like many of us, your self-talk is a caustic mixture of judgments, complaints, and verbal abuse, in the form of "tapes" - mental recordings - that

you've imprinted on your mind and play over and over again. No wonder you feel down and depressed.

However, you can change the tapes you play, and your self-talk, as soon as you become aware of what you're saying to yourself. Changing your self-talk will turbo-charge your life and enhance your performance in everything you do.

You can change your self-talk right now

Let's try a little test. Say to yourself, silently or aloud: "That was a stupid thing to say. How could I say _________ (pick any verbal blunder you can remember). I'm so stupid."

How do you feel? Perhaps you feel sad, or anxious. Take a moment to track your emotions in your body. Perhaps you have a sinking feeling in your tummy, or your face is becoming hot. Your self-talk immediately affected your body, your mental state and your emotions.

Now let's try some positive self-talk. Take a couple of deep breaths, smile, and say to yourself, aloud or silently: "I'm happy, strong and confident."

How do you feel now? Feel your emotions in your body. Repeat the words "I'm happy, strong and confident" several times – keep smiling as you do so. You felt an emotional lift, didn't you? You can give yourself an emotional boost at any time, just by changing your self-talk. If you make it a habit to repeat motivating self-talk to yourself, not only will you feel better, but you'll perform better in everything you do.

Self-talk is powerful, and it's free. It's the best thing you can do for yourself.

Erase old self-talk tapes: make new tapes

Affirmations are a form of self-talk, and you can create your own affirmations to use as self-talk. However, the best way to change your old self-talk tapes, is to make a new tape every time you catch yourself replaying an old tape.

For example, if you hear yourself saying: "I'll never get this project done. No one's helping me with it, I'm always left to do the hard work and others get the credit…"

Change your self-talk immediately. Write down your new self-talk tape which will over time erase the old self-talk tape: "This project's interesting. I'm going to have fun working with it. I'll ask ___ and ___ for their input right away. I'm taking charge of this project, it will be done in no time, and I'll claim the credit because I deserve it."

Now repeat your new self-talk to yourself as often as you need to, particularly as soon as you can hear any faint whispers of the old self talk. Boost the new tape with affirmations, like: "I'm confident, capable and strong. I CAN do this!"

Start today: use powerful self-talk to enhance your performance in everything you do.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

info@aionnh.com

www.2-help-u.com

https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training

http://thomatf.tumblr.com/

Tips for Change "Methods Of Self-Esteem Improvement"

Hi Webbers,

Monday is here and I am excited. I went to see Star Wars awakens this weekend and no spoilers here. However I will say my daughter fell asleep 30 minutes in to the Movie. We left there and we are HUGE Disney freaks so infinity here we go with the Awakens play set. I love hanging out with my child she definitely has character. Self -Esteem Improvement - I hope you enjoy it!

Methods Of Self-Esteem Improvement

Many of us suffer from low self esteem and lack self confidence, you'll be happy to know that there are many methods for self esteem improvement.

The first question you should ask yourself when attempting to improve your self esteem is whether there are issues that need to be addressed with a professional counselor. This is particularly true if your low self esteem is driving you to abuse alcohol or other drugs and is interfering in your life in a major way. If so, you may need to speak with a therapist or counselor who specializes in self esteem issues.

If you want to raise your self esteem but are not having major self esteem problems, then a trip to the local library or book store may help. There are hundreds of self help books, self help groups, self help tapes, self help videos to choose from as self help is a particularly hot topic these days. You may even want to hire a personal coach. These tools will help you improve your self esteem dramatically if you put the advice and recommendations that you receive into action.

One of the real keys to improving self esteem is in taking action. Many people who suffer from low self esteem often get stuck in a rut which drives their self esteem even lower. To raise self esteem, you need to set goals for yourself and then take the necessary actions to meet these goals. Just taking continual action will move you closer towards goal attainment and stop you feeling as if you are worthless and at the mercy of others.

Pay close attention to how you talk. Negative self talk is a real self esteem killer. Make a habit of trading the words “I can’t” to “I will” Having positive expectations will go along way towards increasing you self esteem.

And don't feel as if you're alone. There are thousands of people just like you that of people who suffer from low self esteem and need to improve how they look at themselves and the world around them. You are not alone and you can create the life that you dream of, you just need to start taking steps in the right direction. The sooner you start the sooner you can start enjoying your life as it was meant to be enjoyed.

Want to talk? Need a change in your life click the link to schedule a time. It costs you nothing and I guarantee you get a great value out of it.

If there is a time other than that listed please send me an email and I will see where I can accommodate you.

I am here 2-help-u with your success. I want to be your coach! After all it is your life, live it by your design.

THANK YOU!

Tim Thomas

Life / Success Coach

A Life by Design Company

Tel: 603-682-4980

info@aionnh.com

www.2-help-u.com

https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Training

http://thomatf.tumblr.com/