Hi Webbers,It is Wednesday where has the week gone. I fill like I am in turbo and not slowing down. The golf season is here and I am learning it. I have been goofing off with it for two years now I am trying to punch it out. I spend an hour every night on swing practice. My day starts at 0400 hours (4 AM) and ends about 2100 hours (9 PM). As I type up this weeks tips for change I think about self-esteem and how much I struggled with it in my younger years. I was unbalanced forever and still get unbalanced sometimes. Golf is kind of the same way finding that balanced spot works best from what I know right now. What do you struggle with?
The Balancing Act of Self-Esteem
Having a healthy and balanced sense of self-esteem is a major key to living a healthy and happy life. There are two sides to every coin, however. Sometimes self-esteem can become something else - namely, an unbalanced ego. So how do you know if you are simply being confident, or if you are deceiving yourself?
Healthy Self-Esteem
A healthy self-esteem is one where you have the confidence to be honest with yourself, and love yourself no matter what. A healthy self-esteem encourages you to live your life to the fullest, make bold but good choices, and to keep going if and when mistakes are made.
Low Self-Esteem
An unhealthy self-esteem goes two ways. On the one hand, an unhealthy self-esteem leaves you with
zero confidence as well as an often unrelenting fear of making mistakes, and often leads to a poor quality of life. This is typically called low self-esteem.
Over-Inflated Self-Esteem
On the other hand, an over-inflated self-esteem is also unhealthy. This is a form of self-deception that tricks you into thinking that you are better than everyone else and that you can do anything, even to the point of ostracizing your friends and family.
The Dangers of Unbalanced Self-Esteem
Either way, an unbalanced sense of self-esteem can lower your quality of life. People with low self-esteem often miss out on some of the best things that life has to offer. Either they are too afraid to make a mistake, or they feel that they are not worthy of happiness. It is a type of existence that only holds you back.
An over-inflated sense of self-esteem puts you in danger of losing friends and close relationships. Outwardly, people with an over-inflated sense of self-esteem come off as cocky or mean. They tend to have trouble gaining and keeping close, loving relationships because they come off as being less than genuine.
Lying to Yourself
Typically, however, an inflated self-esteem is generally a sign of the exact opposite. Most people like this are hiding their true selves and are actually riddled with low self-confidence. The false mask of bravado is not true self-esteem, and this confidence is really just a form of self-deception.
Understanding the Meaning of Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is defined as confidence in your own self-worth, a sense of self-respect. You are not
Be Honest with Yourself
To truly find your own self-worth and build a true and balanced healthy self-esteem, you have to first be honest with yourself. Stop hiding behind fear or a false sense of confidence. Often, being honest with yourself is harder than being honest with an outside person.
Self-esteem is truly a balancing act that everyone has to work on. To build a healthy and balanced self-esteem you must first and foremost be honest with yourself. Only then can you start to work on your view of the world as a whole and make real changes that could change your life for the better.
I hope this helped you or you pass it along. I am here 2-help-u. I want to be your coach!
I do have some open slots sign up lets talk
After all it is your life, live it by your design.
THANK YOU!
The finest compliment I could ever receive is a referral.
Tim Thomas
Life Coach
A Life by Design Company
Tel: 603-682-4980
No comments:
Post a Comment